“Whether you want to change a negative behavior (like overeating or snapping at your kids) or commit to a positive one (like meditating every day), the best approach is to cultivate self-compassion and tap into its power, so that you can stick to your resolutions —and build a better life.”
“Self-compassion dramatically improves your chances of making a change for good.”
“When we give ourselves compassion, we are opening our hearts in a way that transforms our lives.”
My fingers hurt—
I will rub my fingers,
pamper them with soothing heat and lotion.
I will tell my fingers—I’m sorry you are in pain.
I will show my fingers compassion.
I will give my fingers the comfort they need.
If you want to cultivate self-compassion,
start by re-framing the behavior you’re trying to change.
See it as a symptom of suffering,
not as a bad part of yourself that you need to fix.
“Self-compassion goes beyond self-acceptance.
It has an active element of caring, of wanting the best for yourself.
It means saying to yourself, ‘I want to heal, to be happy, to be healthy,’
and knowing that sometimes requires you to make a change.”
She says that if you view the change you’re trying to
make as an act of self-care instead of trying to motivate
yourself with anger or rejection, you’ll be more likely to succeed.”
Yoga can teach you
how to give yourself
more kindness and compassion.